"The masculine error is to think that eventually things will be different in some fundamental way. They wont. It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift."David Deida
The Way of the Superior Man
My pal Brian Charles (read his journal section) stopped by the store the other day. He just got two graphic design jobs and was in the mood to celebrate. After closing up we hit up the Khyber for a few beers and shot the shit. Four beers in, the conversation changed to women (as it always does) and fears and expectations in life. Now for those of you who don't know Brian he's my polar opposite. I'm a pessimistic, reclusive asshole :(, he's an optimistic, erudite, vagrant :), so when we get together the shit hits the fan 9/10 times. We think differently so that makes for good conversation. We began exchanging abstractions on what our ideal woman should be. Brian being an artist believes that couples should share various similarities for a relationship to work. He's been in several long term relationships with artists so I agreed with him to a point. The problem is his relationships usually end badly (sorry to put you on Front St). Why pursue something that usually ends up hurting you? I believe successful relationships usually consist of women who're your complementary opposite. Unlike Brian my relationships rarely last past 6 months (99% of the time its my fault.), but I'm still friends with the majority of exes and keep in contact with most of them. We argued this for several hours and of course came to no conclusion (read quote above) but a good time was had by all. Comment below bitches.
The Way of the Superior Man
My pal Brian Charles (read his journal section) stopped by the store the other day. He just got two graphic design jobs and was in the mood to celebrate. After closing up we hit up the Khyber for a few beers and shot the shit. Four beers in, the conversation changed to women (as it always does) and fears and expectations in life. Now for those of you who don't know Brian he's my polar opposite. I'm a pessimistic, reclusive asshole :(, he's an optimistic, erudite, vagrant :), so when we get together the shit hits the fan 9/10 times. We think differently so that makes for good conversation. We began exchanging abstractions on what our ideal woman should be. Brian being an artist believes that couples should share various similarities for a relationship to work. He's been in several long term relationships with artists so I agreed with him to a point. The problem is his relationships usually end badly (sorry to put you on Front St). Why pursue something that usually ends up hurting you? I believe successful relationships usually consist of women who're your complementary opposite. Unlike Brian my relationships rarely last past 6 months (99% of the time its my fault.), but I'm still friends with the majority of exes and keep in contact with most of them. We argued this for several hours and of course came to no conclusion (read quote above) but a good time was had by all. Comment below bitches.
4 comments:
Well Drinking massive amounts of alcohol ends up hurting you whether in the short term (by you embarrassing, injuring,etc yourself or in the long term destroying your body, mind etc)
When it comes to relationships you can't not try, Just go for it (of course you have to be selective about the person you choose to try and trust) and enjoy the positives and negatives until the bad out weighs the good. When it's over and you get hurt you take the next step and move on... (best way is to get bound ass) Trust me dude. The hurt sucks (it can even leave you lying on your friends futon undercovers from 8am-8am the next day) but if one chooses not to even, try and gives up easily that just makes them kind of a coward.
I found a person that I really care about, but you know what they say sometimes you gotta crack a few eggs to make an omelette. (I do subscribe to the quote from HEAT the movie, about prepared to walk away from in 8 seconds flat.. If something don't feel right I am out no questions asked, and keep it moving. I was advised that that was a pretty cowardly thing to do, but I am working on it)
Well, since we're already on Front Street... What the hell do YOU know about good relationships?! Sixth months, indeed. Its ok, though, Brian's not here to break balls, just trying to say... Eventually, you get to a point where sex isn't enough. The woman feels it too. The man in a relationship starts to spend less time with the woman, and the woman starts to act pissy about not being married yet. Maybe this happens after month seven or eight, so its uncharted territory for ol' Francko, but let me tell you from personal experience and intensive research: When that time comes, it helps a LOT if you can pass her that new issue of Fantastic Four. It helps a lot when at 4am you can inspire eachothers work. Similar interests go a LOOOOOOOOOONG way.
Replying to Brian's mean comments :) I would rather go through a million 1 day relationships where I'm acting 100% honest and truthful to myself and the woman involved, than go through one 4 year relationship where I lower myself or compromise to make it work. Fuck buddies and girlfriends are different my friend. We're in the later portion of our twenties so we should really dispense with the pleasantries. A girlfriend you treasure a whore you pleasure. Do you feel satisfied with yourself when you look back at the man you were while you were in those relationships in the past? I don't think so. I can go on but I'm late for work. Francko out! Lol!
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